North Node - Mars, South Node - Venus

In honor of this eclipse cycle I feel it’s important to discuss the North Node and the South Node and debunk some “popular” notions of belief that follow them. Let’s start with what the North Node and South Node are, they’re importance in Astrology and how to navigate your own NN/SN through understanding the opposition.

So, according to Astrology the North Node and South Node are aspects of the Moon. They’re representatives of the where the moon crosses the ecliptic (where the sun passes yearly which brings about eclipses). It’s an orbital point of focus where we are able to become fully realized in our nature and our nurture. As they are moving in opposite directions at all times it’s imperative that we come to understand the principle of BALANCE necessary to manage its navigation in our lives.

It’s so important to unlearn the idea that your north node is all you’re headed towards and the south node is all you need to leave behind. THIS IS NOT TRUE. You’re here with gifts that you’ve been given primarily through familial and spiritual lineage (South Node) that brought you into being. There’s a reason most of your family seems to work in Human Resources or as Teachers. There’s a reason multiple people in your family have prophetic dreams. Those are gifts! Some of these gifts can even act as our saving grace. Thank goodness for math coming so naturally to your family or yo ass would have been in big trouble during school. KEEP THEM! Why would you divest from your natural gifts? Be grateful for them and remember that you can still grow with your gifts mentally and spiritually. It’s your nature.

Now, let’s talk nurture. That’s the way to understand the North Node. These are opportunities to nurture new aspects of yourself that life will bring via challenges for you to excel at. This means learning to be uncomfortable to get yourself where you want to be. Thank goodness for our North Node or some of us would never have some of our favorite artists. Some of you would have maybe never moved away had you not hopped on the train, in a plane or Automobile pop and moved to a new city to go to school. Sometimes, to get where you’re trying to go you will have to navigate seas unknown. This isn’t to say you can thrive where you are but, if you’re truly being led to another place it’s not for nothing! This is also why only following the demands of the North Node can be demanding and dangerous. If we aren’t able to leverage and balance our gifts properly we forget where we came from and May go on unnecessary side quests.

So, how do we go about interpreting the north node and the south node especially when it is in the position that were seeing them in now. Mars is carrying the north node and Venus is carrying the south node. Based on the definitions, I provided above we are being called to take stock of the relationships we have in our lives currently or experientially. This at a base line level means examining the relationships that we first had before we knew what relationships were. Yes people, I’m talking about your parents. Not only the relationship that you had with your parents, but the relationship that they had with each other and their relationship even as far back as they had with your grandparents. I think this is especially important, considering many of us here are probably children of divorce or parental separation of some degree. Like all relationships, especially those that we’re intimate in, they come together because something really works well there. Where the separations start to arise and conflict begins to brew, is when one or both parties are sacrificing pieces of themselves to ensure diplomacy and connection. This is where the south node being Venusian gets complicated. Venus wants to be comfortable. They will do anything they can to maintain comfort for Taurus, through the means of financial stability and environmental stability. For Libra, this comfort lies in connectivity within the realm of ideas and interpersonal relationships. Currently, I’m reading all about love by bell hooks, and one thing that has come up for me is the need to define what the people in my life have to do for me in order to feel loved. Also, what is my definition of love because I can’t ask for people to uphold this bargain, if I haven’t defined it for myself. When we’re talking about familial relationships, especially it’s extremely easy to blow off what love is through making excuses for our loved ones even in their poor treatment of us or their misbehavior with our emotions. It’s hard for us even as adults to shed the mindset of the kid who is supposed to love mommy and daddy no matter what because they’re mommy and daddy. Psychology doesn’t necessarily allow for us to differentiate this when it comes to choosing romantic partners. This is often why we end up with mirrors of our unresolved issues with one or both of our parents and our romantic partners. Ultimately, wherever the mirror is facing parentally, we become the opposite of that parent in reaction. I know as an only child of parents who have really never seemed to like each other that much to me, but have remained married. I had a hard time trying to figure out who I wanted to be in relationships. For me, my dad was the authoritarian. Whatever he said goes he didn’t really care about what anyone else felt, and everyone tiptoed around him because of it. For my mother, she was a Christian woman and a southern woman. Everyone in the family gets married and stays with these men, even though these men are unkind and relentless in their egotistical measures of power. I would go on to say that one of the most important conversations I ever had was with my grandmother a couple years back when I told her that the reason that my parents, marriage, and even my aunts and uncles relationship trauma is because of what she showed them as children. She looked me in the eye and said I was 100% right. And although I was vindicated, because who doesn’t love to be right, I also had to acknowledge that now I had to be more responsible for the actions that I was putting forth in my relationships, especially with men. Now the same can also be said for friendships. For some of us when we became friends with people, we were in situations that brought us together. This can be because of school, an extracurricular activity, or even our working environment. Because we have such close proximity to them, and what are usually systems of control or oppression that exist outside of our own desires, or Choices, we bond with people and attempt to keep the bond alive because it feels just too difficult to admit that we’re not jiving anymore. This naturally can lead to feeling awkward with in relationships, avoiding friends, or friend groups, or even lead to explosive moments, because we are refusing the reality of the lack of alignment. It can be really hard to admit that you’ve outgrown this activity with a group of friends, or this mindset with a group of friends, or the vibe of your friendship group. But, if you’re going along to get along, you won’t get along very far.

At the core, a south node, Venusian transit wants us to re-examine what we relate to. This means the who, and the why. Venus being in Pisces, especially during this eclipse cycle, we have to think about the cycles that we are continuing to create and invest our time, energy and attention into , because we just don’t wanna let go. To me, Pisces and Libra are the most similar when it comes to discussing codependency, and especially codependency through the lens of outside sources. We know that Pisceans are known to be escapists through substances, however, Libra are known to be escapists through people. This is why they’re also both known to adopt their partners relationships or even their identity for partners. A great example of this would actually be a Libra sun, Pisces moon Kim Kardashian. I think about her relationship with Kanye specifically. Remember when they first started dating and everyone was like “what the hell is Kim Kardashian?” wearing all the time! The bitch is a goofball, and it was made extremely clear when she had a really cute style before him in my opinion, but she was so desperate to be married again, and have this family and be his muse, her own look evaporated right before our eyes. With these two signs, the idealism rules the entire relationship. And as a result, they will coast on idealism (Pisces) as the foundation of relationships that are not in their best interest for their own personal growth. So at the core here, where are we trying to go with our relationships? For real. Because we can see where they’ve been through the lens of our family experience, and our own experiences with friends and intimate partners, but what does that actually mean for us now? That’s the question that the south node and Libra is asking for us to answer. You keep saying you want good boundaries with partnerships and you want to be heard and understood and seen within the spaces in places you’re being placed in so you’re going to have to examine the cycles that brought you to this point, and choose to embark on a new greater journey. This does not mean you cannot keep the friendships and relationships that you have built. But, it can mean, that there is a new order that needs to be established in order for relationships to continue.

So when we think about how the north node is Martian, we have a pretty clear path towards what we’re being asked to do. Mars at its core is a penetrative and separative energetic force. This is why our favorite warlords have strong Mars placements that are direct and definitive. This is the energy that Mars thrives in. Mars is about sharpness. Not only the sharpness necessary for strategy, focus, and direction, but also to cut. Mars is excellent at helping us realize what we need to cut out or off that could be causing us damage. I recently conducted a in person reading for a local nurse in town who was super scorpion. In her seventh house, she had Mars, Sun and Mercury in Scorpio. And I came to find out she was a surgical nurse, some people are literally living through their chart without trying. At the core we need surgery to cut out the bad cut off the pain. And this is also why Mars thrives in the sixth house. When we are engaging in behaviors that are degenerative or depleting in any way Mars in the sixth house can help cut that out. People with mars in the sixth house understand how important it is to have a direction in your daily life while also understanding that that might mean that certain things aren’t going to get done or need to be done in a more strategic fashion. This even harkens back to what I said previously About not needing to necessarily cut and sever all ties but, being able to acknowledge what you need, assert that need, and see if those you are in relationship with are willing to meet the need. Especially asking ourselves if it’s not coming from a place of defense or ego. Now this is where having Mars Transit the sign of Pisces through much of this Aries season can be harmful and helpful depending on what side of the coin you fall on. Mars is debilitated in the sign of Pisces, which means that it’s not as comfortable as it would like to be and because the natural ruler of Pisces is Jupiter. We can find ourselves going really overboard in the way this debilitation responds. It’ll be Aries season, so yes, we have that energy working for us but the entirety of it will have a Crossroads attached to it. What I mean is, Pisces is a sign that we look to to understand the nature of endings and integration recognizing the value of travel to move onto new experiences with this integrated knowledge that serves themselves and others. We’re going to be called to pay attention to what we are integrating and whether or not, it is helpful to where we say we’re building our strategies towards. It’s not enough to just want the thing, you’re going to have to break the chains that have reinforce the idea that you can’t have the thing. You’re going to have to break the habits and the routines that have enforced that you can’t have the thing. That means deep level, introspection, accountability, and responsibility for where you are today and then taking the reins to move towards where you want to be tomorrow.

This is not going to be easy, I would say if mars were in Aries right now, this energy would be easier to manage however because it’s in Pisces those cycles are die hard. These cycles are ancestral and generational on many levels so it’s going to take a lot of work and precision and Grace. This goes back into what I said previously relationships don’t have to end necessarily. If we feel capable of showing grace creating positive boundaries and indulging in conversations that may not feel comfortable initially we can grow tremendously. But first will have to really choose and then follow up with activities that reinforce this choice. It’s giving, detox. Maybe even hermit mode. Because what we’re really seeking right now does seek to be sought after by us, but we will not touch it if we can’t see it. You may need space and you may need support but first you’re going to need to spend that time alone to level up your discernment for where your next steps need to take you. The use of the word you is coming up a lot here because at the end of the day the north node is currently in Aries. The self is where we are seeing a lot of the focus right now or the blockages even. And what we can do is recognize that no man is an island, but, The best people can’t reach us if we aren’t clear on our mission and journey as individuals. Your choices create your lived experiences, and if your lived experiences are not what you’ve enjoyed look at who has been around during those life experiences for extra insight. I grew up with a girl literally from the time I was like eight we were friends then we became roommates, then we stopped being friends and started being friends again and then stopped being friends again. The only reason we are not friends today, is because I had to put my foot down. What became most clear to me about this relationship as I got older was that, our friendship bond was largely held on, poor circumstances happening to either of us at one time, but eventually always be coming both of us at the same time. Literally if I was up, she was down. If she was down, I was up, and if we were spending time together, it was like only a matter of time before we were matching, each other’s energy literally. I then realized, that energetically we were not a match. I hadn’t done as much work that I have now, I wasn’t in the place to sit down and have this conversation, and have it be understood, and have both of us be responsible enough to make sure that our relationship with ourselves, and then each other was being respected and valued amongst both parties. The truth was, I got tired of the cycle of realizing that when I was in relationship with this person, they were still seeing my characteristics as a person who lacked confidence, and was quiet, and reserved. I don’t know that she knew this, but my radiance sparked in Envy and her, and perhaps her radiance would spark and Envy, and me, which is why when we got back together, and on speaking terms, things in our lives would fall apart. I literally cannot be a part of these types of relationships in my 30s that shit is so dead.

I know it’s been a lot of words, but I do hope I’ve done a decent job through this process of weighing out what this time is about and in the most truest sense. Please read below for how your north node and south node opposition may show up for you based on the planet involved.

Mars/Venus: what’s yours, what’s theirs, what you’ll be sharing.

Sun/Saturn: how you’re empowered, how you’re blocked, how you’ll need to engage to power through Blockages

Mercury/Jupiter: getting the details, gathering experiences, using information to provide knowledge that enlightens.

Moon/Saturn: your body and emotional path, how you’re blocked, how to integrate your body and emotional path in your purpose

Peace ✌🏾