This Venus Retrograde is For Centering Yourself
Heads UP: I don’t give a fuck about your fuck ass EX and neither should you. Now that it’s clear, I won’t be discussing that any further let’s talk about what REALLY matters this Venus RX.
As many of you should know by now, I am a Venus in Aries native. I’ve got some more reasons to be proud of that but the main reason I’m proud of it is because displacement allows me to never lose sight on my life’s greatest project: ME! I am here for me and I make every Venusian aspect of my life as ME centric as possible. I concern myself with what I like to indulge myself in and anyone I come into Venusian contact with is always at the behest of the terms I set. I have been referred to as selfish and that’s absolutely true. However, the space it has allowed in my experiences can’t be undercut. There are many things that most people find themselves at crossroads with regarding Venusian aspects that I simply will never relate to because of my “selfishness” but in my opinion what others consider selfish is usually strong self advocacy. In other terms, I refuse to indulge in anything that doesn’t work for me FIRST. Mind you, the ruler of MY Venus is my natal Mars in Leo so,some of that self important star power really rises to the top but, I think it’s perfect to start this post out since the beginning of this transit IS begging for self centeredness. Let’s talk about what to focus on in there here and now as Venus transits Aries.
1. Reclaiming Your Body: some of you could be considering celibacy or abstinence right now and that makes sense. Maybe your taste up until this point has been conservative and you’re ready to show more skin! Maybe you’ve been showing more of your body than you’d like as of late or even sharing more of your body than usual and you’re ready to give you back to yourself. Others of you could suddenly feel inspired to start new physical routines. Regardless, it’s time to start the practice of cultivating sacred space and boundaries with your body. Go get that physical if it’s been a while too. STD Tests!
2. Reclaiming Your Style: Do you know what YOU like? Have you felt a little blah about your style choices as of late? Venus in Aries gives an icon and primal sex appeal. Are you attractive to yourself? Now’s the time to revisit style choices from your past when you felt your hottest and most confident. Of there are colors, cuts, aesthetics that you really made your own maybe it’s time to reverse back to that. Find the inspiration you need within yourself from your past self. We all have a period of our lives where we are ere the baddest of all time and this is your chance to reinvest in that.
3. Revisiting Financial Boundaries: It’s mine, I spend it! Hopefully this is already your model minus bankrupting yourself. If you are finding that overspending has become a new normal, now is a good time to consider why. Venus in Aries has a tendency to spend on behalf of the ego for better or for worse. He here has your money been going and why? Are you acting out a negative pattern or lack that is no longer relevant to who you are or who you see yourself becoming? Knock it off! This can even come with making healthier more responsible choices. Try indulging your best self by opting for a kombucha instead of the extra sugary coffee or committing to 10,000 steps 4x a week. We will talk about needs in more depth when I talk Venus in Pisces Rx but I hope you get the agenda.
SIDE NOTE: Remember that this Venus in Aries transit is ruled by Mars in Cancer. This is integral to getting to the ROOT of how to proceed forward in the interest of your body, personal means of security, and your outward reflection. See how I used the Moon that rules Mars in Cancer as another way to use this energy effectively? You’re getting holistic healing with this guidance. Tending to yourself is all the more relevant as we shift from Venus in Aries to Venus in Pisces.
So, this is the part where we double down on some of what’s listed above and also add onto it with more depth. Venus is exalted in Pisces, so it’s only right we speak a little bit about why. Venus in Pisces is all about the “us”. And so, we are challenged this Venus Retrograde to think about who “us” is, has been,and will become. The best qualities of Pisces does come into play regarding the care of another but, this is because of the recognition of the everlasting journey of self care that is necessary for their internal and external success.
Let’s talk about Jesus! He didn’t gather his 12 disciples u til he disappeared for a while and honed in on his own skill set and got aligned with his path. Even those of us who are here to support others, STILL need to have our own experiences as stand alone beings. We are not 1/2 of another we are always 1 whole of ourselves. This part of the transit does need you to get deep and frankly, with ruler Jupiter in Gemini as the ruler of this transit you could find yourself revisiting old memories with others through journaling, music, or messaging. Some of you could even peek at “old members” of your life but the WHY is what you’re going to need to come to terms with. The thing about nostalgia that is oft ignored is, we are no longer those people anymore. That old theme that resonated way back when did so for a reason and if you peek at the reflection of that you’ll realize it’s not relevant except for in passing. If you’re thinking of exes it should be Ari style “thank you, next”. You know what you want now and you know that passing moments don’t always lead to long lasting foundations. It’s time to make peace with that. Let’s talk about some important ways to do so:
1. Reclaiming Our Spirit: when is the last time you’ve sat in the nature of your own Magic? For some of you this means tapping into some long needed spiritual healing through ancestral work. This could mean realigning with religious practices that you were slightly aware of in your past but feel called to foster deeper investment in now. Maybe it’s journaling, building a new grounding practice or rediscovering the power of prayer. In any event, if your soul has been wandering away, call yourself back.
2. Reclaiming Our Calling: Do you remember why you came back? Perhaps it’s time to. This is a wonderful time for reconnecting with our purpose. And hey, maybe there’s more than 1. Regardless, maybe revisiting those journals or sketchbooks is a useful tool for some reason to you right now. You could rediscover on what you create and what you share with yourself brings additional sparks into play.
3. Reclaiming Community: This is an important time for knowing who your people are. It’s an even greater time for knowing WHY they’re your people. You don’t have to take everyone into your fold nor do you have to be part of everyone’s energy. You get to align with what’s important to you and ask the universe to open up the space to be receptive to the right community members. Know what you’re open to experiencing with them by way of standards so you’re not falling into ridiculous community dynamics that are anti communal or have a “martyr” at the head who could be misleading and malignant.
SIDE NOTE: please do not get swept away by massage. This, coupled with the easy-going Jupiter and Gemini energy could make it easy to strike up conversations, create fantasies, or get a little lost in the “idea” of something. Please use resources that are safe to get these thoughts and feelings off your chest. We all get “needy” from time to time and being heard by the right person/people is always the better option tha moving backwards or going here you know you won’t be given the space to sort this out.
So, hopefully this retrograde is great to you and you maneuver in your own best interest. This is such a powerful transit for learning to apply what it means to treat yourself like you matter.
Take care of your ❤️